Anonymous asked: How does someone get past being heartbroken, in your opinion?
I hate to say this but, time. Some things, you get perspective, you take the good and let go of the bad. What did you learn? What can you take with you? Was the person who broke your heart vital to a change in the course of your life, which you would not want undone? A girl who broke my heart introduced me to my family, so I can’t regret that I met her. Another girl who broke my heart got me into college, so I can’t regret that I met her.
Still, sometimes you can’t take away enough good to outweigh the bad. Then it’s just time and distance. One thing that you should always carry with you is that you are not defined by another. Shit happens, it is what it is, people can be mean and cruel, but in the end you still have you. Take the good in you, throw away the bad. Keep learning through every experience and you will only become more you, stronger. You will love yourself in a way that you can’t be so crushed, or so controlled by another that getting your heart broken will threaten to break you.
On a more personal note, I strongly advise anyone who wants to be a writer to go out and get their heart broken right now if you haven’t already. Heartbreak is probably the most common element of human life, so naturally you are going to be dealing with it a lot in writing. I hang my heart out to be stabbed every chance I get. It’s kind of fucked up. It’s fun before that happens, and at least I know I’m alive when it does.
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